How to Cope with Infidelity

Cheating is something that is not only cowardly and dishonest, but it is utterly disrespectful to the sanctity of a union that is supposed to be based upon trust. With that said, it still happens...it happens everyday, unfortunately.


If you suspect your husband is having an affair, your first reaction may be to react with anger or threats.  A lot of women out there have dealt with a cheating partner and have their own coping strategies. Here are some approaches you can take to getting your world back in control when you suspect your partner of cheating. 

Get the Facts

Try not to act impulsively, before you accuse your husband of infidelity, get the facts. God gave a woman intuition, not just for the mother in her, but also for the spouse, only you know the signs.

Get proof before doing something rash, like packing up the kids and leaving:  As long as there is no harm being done to you physically or verbally,  wait before you leave so you can have your evidence. . . .you will know the truth and won't have to wonder if you made a mistake.

Confront Your Husband

Confront your husbands before doing anything drastic. Talk to your hubby and let him know that you think he is cheating. . . . Explain to him the reasons why you think he is (no matter how small or stupid you think the reasons are) and let him tell his story or explain why he is doing what he is doing. Even if the confrontation confirms your worst fears.

Get Relationship Counseling 

Finding out your spouse is cheating on you emotionally or physically (or both) can be extremely overwhelming. Get professional help, you and your spouse can sort out if you want to keep the marriage or not and see what's really left in your relationship. 

Give an Ultimatum and Be Ready to Move On

If your husband continues an affair despite all your efforts to remedy the situation, it's time for an ultimatum. You can’t mend your relationship with a third party wedged in the middle. You need to make sure there is no contact between the woman and him ever again. If you think they are fooling around, that’s when you pack up and don’t let him explain and you leave while you still have your self respect.

Pray

It is important that you find peace in God.

Allow support from family and friends

While no one can take the pain away, support and love can help you through this difficult time. Don't hold the pain inside.

Forgiveness

This is one of the most difficult of all human behaviors. Forgiveness means you are done with the negative emotion that is harming your life.

Relationships can heal from the horrible heartache of an affair. I'm not saying it is easy, I'm not saying it doesn't require an enormous amount of work and energy, and I'm not saying it is going to happen overnight. I am saying that it is possible.

But, as any couple who has faced this serious challenge, they will tell you that it takes a lot of effort and time and a tremendous amount of courage and commitment. But the important thing is, you will find peace and happiness again.

“There are all kinds of ways for a relationship to be tested, even broken, some, irrevocably; it’s the endings we’re unprepared for.”